Posted December 05, 2019 10:33:18 When your teacher’s son died, your husband’s mom thought of you.
It wasn’t the first time she had thought about your death, but it was the last.
“I was the one who gave him the last rites.
That’s what I did,” she told the San Francisco Chronicle.
In 2016, she gave birth to a daughter.
The next year, she started thinking about your family.
She remembered a day when her son was just 12, when she was in the back of a hospital waiting room, “thinking about you and your beautiful son.”
“He was so beautiful and so intelligent and so smart, and I felt he could have been me,” she said.
“You have no idea how sad I felt.”
That same day, she and her husband, who was on vacation in California, drove to the Bay Area to get the baby.
“They told me it would be a couple of weeks before he would be born,” she recalled.
“My husband said, ‘Mom, he’s just a baby.’
I said, what do you mean?”
She went home to her family.
“The next day, my husband called me to say, ‘I can’t believe I did that to my son.
What can I do to make him happy?’
I said that I’m not going to tell him.”
After a few weeks, he told her, “You don’t know what to do.”
“I said, I’ll be fine,” she recalls.
The baby was born on February 22, 2020.
Three days later, his parents and grandparents visited the hospital, asking if the baby was doing well.
“Mom was crying,” he said.
When the parents asked why, she replied, “Because he’s so good-looking.
I can’t imagine him not being beautiful.”
He was born a month later, with a different name and birth date.
“It’s a strange feeling to think that it happened to you,” she remembers.
“When he was born, I said to him, ‘You can’t be that beautiful.
He can’t have your hair.'”
In an article for The San Francisco Examiner, Ms. Bodnar recounted her memories of the day she and Mr. Bodnans son, who she named Sam, died.
She said she has been thinking about it since, when a friend called her to ask if she knew what had happened.
She told him about it, but he told the newspaper he didn’t remember anything.
Ms. Bodnar said she thinks the hospital told her that Sam had been born with a brain abnormality.
She went to a local pediatric neurologist for an exam.
She was told, “He had a very rare disorder,” and said she should go home.
Ms Bodnans story is heartbreaking, but also a reminder that the stigma surrounding mental health issues, especially among young people, is far from over.
“We live in a society where people think that mental illness is an illness that you can fix by getting help from a mental health professional,” Ms. Hodnar said.
But it can take years before mental health professionals can diagnose a child, let alone offer treatment.
“There’s so much stigma that goes on in society that people think it’s normal to think about your mental health when it’s so difficult,” she continued.
“But what it means is, if you have a serious mental illness, you’re going to be put into a system that will treat you differently.”
Read more: https://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article/CIVIL/NEWS/20171207/NEWS-LIFE-MAR-17-2017-MOM-KATHARINA-BODNANS-KIDS-DEATH.php